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**课程名称：** 克服焦虑大师课 **课程概述：** 本课程由 Parr 博士教授，旨在帮助学员理解情绪产生的根源，并掌握一个简单公式，用以控制压力和焦虑的思绪，最终培养平和的心态。 焦虑是一种面向未来的情绪。尽管我们恐惧的事物各不相同，但焦虑背后的思维模式却惊人地一致。无论你因何而焦虑，所有焦虑都遵循着一个模式：“万一”（What if）——这是对未来的恐惧，即将我们的思绪投射到一个不存在、也可能永远不会发生的情境中。“万一”的成分在于我们内心编织的故事，例如“万一我的车发动不了或者发生事故？”、“万一我男友甩了我？”、“万一我老板炒我鱿鱼？”。仅凭“万一”的念头，最多只会产生轻微的担忧，直到我们加上另外两个要素。 “万一”的陈述本身并非坏事，它们可以作为安全网，帮助我们避免不必要的、有害的风险，这本质上是一种解决问题的能力。只有当我们加入公式的另外两个部分时，才会产生焦虑感。 “灾难化”（Awfulizing）是指我们通过感知来扭曲事实。“如果我的车发动不了或发生事故，那将是极其可怕的”、“如果我的男友不再爱我，那将是灾难性的！”或者“要是被老板炒鱿鱼，那简直是灭顶之灾！”。每一次说某件事“糟糕透顶”，我们实际上是在将令人不悦或不便的事情，通过夸张的描述，放大到一种普遍的、不应该存在的不幸程度。所谓的“糟糕”，只存在于你的脑海中，你通过定义它为糟糕，而创造了它。 焦虑公式的最后一个组成部分是“我无法忍受”（I can't stand it）。这是在“灾难化”之后产生的想法。不仅如果上述事件发生会很糟糕，而且一旦发生，你将无法忍受。你会崩溃，如果失去工作、恋人，或者遭遇事故。但你清楚这并非事实，因为你已经挺过了迄今为止发生的一切不愉快的事情；你曾失去过其他恋人、其他工作，也曾遭遇过事故，但如果你还在阅读这段文字，说明你还活着。因此，你承受了所有发生过的事情，并将一直承受下去，直到生命的终点。谁知道呢？亚里士多德曾说，这或许是我们最辉煌的时刻——最终解放与自由的时刻。 了解了你所感受到的之后，如何停止这种感受呢？这个过程可以分解为两个简单的步骤：一是审视导致焦虑的思维过程，二是直面你认为导致焦虑的实际情境。
Dr. Parr teaches you the foundations of how emotions are created in your mind, and how to use a simple formula to take control of these stressful, anxious thoughts and to cultivate a mind of peace. Anxiety is always a future-oriented emotion. We all have different fears, but the pattern of thinking behind Anxiety is the same for every single one of us. No matter what you are anxious about, all Anxiety follows this pattern:‘What if' is essentially fear of the future: projecting our mind into a future that doesn't exist and may never occur. The ‘What If' component has to do with the story that you make up in your mind. "What if my car doesn't start or I get in an accident?" "What if my boyfriend dumps me?" "What if my boss fires me?" This part creates at most a minor concern, until you add the other two elements. What if statements are not a bad thing when taken by themselves. They can serve as a safety net to keep us from taking unnecessary and harmful risks. It's just problem solving. You only get the feeling of Anxiety when you add the next two parts of the equation.The ‘Awfulizing' happens when you take that event and alter it through your perception. "If my car doesn't start or I get in an accident, it would be truly awful," "It would be terrible if my boyfriend didn't love me anymore!" or, "If my boss fired me that would be catastrophic!" Every time you say that something is awful, you are taking something that is unpleasant or inconvenient to you and exaggerating the unpleasantness until it is so universally bad it simply shouldn't exist. Awful doesn't exist except in your mind-you created it by defining it as such.The final component of the formula for anxiety, "I can't stand it," is the thought that follows the Awfulizing. Not only would it be terrible if any of the events above happened, but if they did, you wouldn't be able to stand it. You would fall apart if you lost your job, your boyfriend or girlfriend, or if you were in an accident. You know this isn't true because you've withstood every other unpleasant thing that has happened up until this moment in time; you've lost other boyfriends or girlfriends, other jobs, and had accidents, but if you're reading this, you're still alive. Therefore, you have stood everything that has ever happened to you and you will until memento mori, the moment of death. And who knows? Aristotle said that this might be our finest moment-the moment of final liberation and freedom.Now that you know what you are feeling, how do you stop feeling that way? This process can be broken down into two simple steps: confronting the thought process that causes Anxiety, and then confronting the situation you believe is causing your Anxiety.
